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     I wrote a book called Chasing Dreams, (yet to be published) in which I share my story about how I live the dream and chase it at the same time. It talks about how I’ve spent basically my whole adult life married to my wife and I have no regrets. That does not mean that it has always been easy, nor has it always been a blissful experience.  In fact, sometimes it has been very difficult, frustrating and seemingly a hopeless battle to have happiness. Life itself, in addition to being married and having a family has forced me to have to look deep within myself in order to step my game up beyond my initial comprehension.  There were no shortcuts along the way, and I’ve literally had to earn everything that I proudly stand up for today.  My wife is what I call a new millennium woman from the nineties, and she wasn’t giving respect easily.  I’ve had to earn every bit of love, trust and, like Aretha Franklin would say, r-e-s-p-e-c-t, that I found out what meant to her...and me.  I’ve also found that the ride has been well worth it because I am not the secure, confident, happy and at peace man that I am today without it.

     When it comes to marriage, I think it’s important to each have the approach of bringing your full 100 percent to the table. When I got married, I first came in with a 50/50 mindset about marriage, because I thought that was what would make me a great husband, but quickly realized that attitude wasn’t going to work.  I wouldn’t say that when I got married in 1999, at my young age of 24, that I wasn’t ready for marriage, but I will say that I was naïve, lacked guidance and had no idea what I was getting into. I did not know I was going to have to become a mind reader, learn how to speak in different languages and be ready to discuss and explain every decision I made. I look back and still to this day feel that there was no one in my life that I should’ve sought advice from because I wouldn’t have listened anyways. I was a young man who found the love I was looking for and made a grown man decision, so there was no turning back. I learned through trial and error, have grown, figured it out and married life has turned out great for me.

     I always knew that I wanted to grow up, be like my parents and have a family, even when I was a youngster running around spending my teenage years in Prince George’s County, living in Clinton, MD, a suburb of Washington D.C. Back then, Washington D.C. was known as the murder capital — in the late 80’s and early 90’s.  Even though it wasn't in my neighborhood, on my doorstep, every night on the news, all I remember was hearing about another young black male shot dead in the streets, over nothing. Because of that, I didn’t take anything for granted, and since I had the opportunity to make something of my life, I stayed focused on the big picture. 

     For me, my mindset was not only about trying to survive and stay out of trouble, but also finding me a nice little honey to build a life with. I was not living a thug life at all, but a part of me didn’t think I would live to see the age of 21. But it was at age 21, in 1995, when I met Radiah, and knew she was the one.  It was game over before I even got started.  There would be no CW running wild in the DMV — just me kickin' it with wifie.  She had me in the sunken place. I may not have known exactly what I was getting into, but I knew this was the life I chose, and I was going to make it right and win, because I never play to lose. I’m no different than Coach Herman Edwards, when he vehemently stated in his famous postgame rant to the media, after a side eyed stare down, “YOU PLAY TO WIN THE GAME… HELLO!” … Why would I approach marriage any differently.